The first thing to understand about gentle parenting is that it is not permissive parenting. Boundaries still exist. What changes is how you hold them.
On a good day this looks like kneeling down to eye level and naming the feeling before naming the rule. On a hard day it looks like apologising after you have raised your voice, and meaning it.
Children do not need a parent who never gets it wrong. They need one who repairs. That repair is the lesson, far more than the calm you managed to hold for the first ten minutes.
I keep one question nearby when it gets difficult: is this about safety, or is this about my own tiredness? The answer changes what I do next more than any technique I have read.
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